Sunday, January 12, 2014

be brave...


 " Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave..."
~sara bareilles~

I just sat down tonight to write Sunday's post for Kathy's Song~ography.  The song she choose this week is "Brave" by Sara Bareilles.  I've never heard this song...so I read her lyrics.

Oh my...did they strike a chord with me! 

You see...several difficult things happened to me last year.  I just kept quiet and let others take advantage of me.  I have always been one to never rock the boat...always wanting to be a people pleaser...always avoiding confrontation at all costs.  
But the costs were just to great on me.  I kept quiet... i was not brave enough to let my words flow out.  As a result, I have had quite a few tears flowing instead.

Just when I thought the year was about over and I could start anew...Christmas came... and once again I let others ruin my day simply because I did not speak up. 

So as I put away my Christmas tree and start a new year i am hoping..maybe this is the year I have learned my lesson...maybe this is the year to have my voice heard.

So thank you, dear Kathy for choosing this song...it really spoke to my heart.

If you have a few moments, be sure to click here to join in on all the brave song~ography fun!

until next time...
nancyjean


17 comments:

  1. I ve had a few moment also that were I call.. WTF and I never used this.. but it is on my wall on facebook.. Shine and let it flow.
    Loved the song she choose.

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  2. I think this song spoke to many of us! Be brave girl - be amazing!

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  3. Lovely Nancy. Thank you so much for sharing from your heart. Your voice is definitely worth hearing. Do not be afraid.

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  4. Here's to us who try to avoid conflict at too high a cost. That's me too, for sure. I'm reading the book Quiet -- excellent and encouraging, if you haven't read it yet. Wishing you a BRAVE 2014!

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  5. Sounds familiar, and I think there are a great deal of us who keep silent to keep the peace...except we lose our own peace. My husband often reminds me that conflict isn't a bad thing, and that is the source of growth in personal relationships. I think there is a balance in knowing when to speak and when to be quiet. The one who always brings conflict or offense is no good either. I wish I understood the balance! I usual just sacrifice my own needs because it is easier, but the older I get the less right it feels.

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  6. I think it's great that the song spoke to you in such a personal way. It's hard to know when to speak up for one's self and when to back down. I do hope that you will find that balance this year. - By the way I love your pretty Christmas ornaments.

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  7. Sometimes it takes great strength to step back and endure - but it sound like it is your time to step up and speak up. Kim is right in there is a balance in knowing when to speak and when to be quiet, but when it is bringing you to tears - well, ... be brave friend - you owe it to yourself. Good 2014!

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  8. I can relate in many ways. Hard to be a people pleaser but also be brave enough to make sure you're taken care of and heard. Here's to a new year full of smiles and bravery!

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  9. thank you everyone for all you kind comments....it is so hard to find the balance of when to be heard and when to keep quiet...definitely something I need to work on this year!

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  10. I hope that these lyrics really are your wake up call and they will help you to speak out more often. By no means am I an extrovert. But I have learnt that 'you don't get anything in life if you don't either ask or do it yourself. Sounds really tougher than I am, or feel, but sometimes it helps to put on a tough outer ;) Here's to an awesome 2014! Hope to see you around...

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  11. Oh I am so sorry that you have had to endure the results of staying silent...but I am also so happy that somehow this song has reverberated within you! I have the complete opposite problem. I have to learn to keep my mouth shut at times :). There must be a happy median between the two extremes..and maybe that's where the truly brave live. Thanks for sharing your journey, and participating in S ong-ography! (gorgeous photo too my friend!)

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  12. I often stay silent. It's hard, and even harder on yourself. I've found that it stores anger within. Eventually that anger gets pretty big. For me-it started to come out sideways, this anger at things unrelated to the problems. Hope you can reach in and resolve some of what's inside. I'm guessing it will be freeing-but I totally know that fear.

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  13. It is so difficult to speak up isn't it ? I to am one not to rock the boat and then I am the only one to suffer. Be brave Nancy and thanks for feeling safe enough to speak out here it takes courage...

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  14. What a lovely post, Nancy. Your thoughts need to be voiced and will make a difference. I hope you will share next time.

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  15. I hope that in the coming year you will have courage to speak when you need to and the wisdom to know when you don't.....Your voice is important. Afterall there is not another you in the world so what you have to say is needed....

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  16. Sometimes it is the right thing to do to not speak out, but when it effects your health, your well-being, your self-worth, then it is time...courage for the new year!!

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